That sounds like what people typically say that there is so much to do. Like my mom said to me, "in the hospital they tell you when to push, how is____(DH) going to know when to tell you push." It is sad that people (even ones that have birthed babies) still don't get it!!!

 

That drove me NUTs after my UC. Everyone would ask dh, "So you delivered the baby?"

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There was also that fact that he had to sign as the "attendant" on the birth certificate paperwork.

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People just don't get it.

 

I had a similar experience. We went to the hospital a day and a half after birth to get birth certificate help and for me to get stitched for a tear. All the nurses and doctors *KNEW* us throughout the hospital because of our story and were totally amazed. They kept asking, "Who cut the cord????" We said that DH did and they would just marvel at that. My husband got to the point where he said he wanted to say, "We didn't cut it. I gnawed through it like an animal. We're REALLY into natural childbirth."

They also insisted on an ultrasound of my uterus to make sure everything was fine. They were pretty astounded when the U/S looked so "clean" (their words). They told me, "Your husband is a very good doctor!" Like he had ANYTHING to do with the fact that my placenta came out in one, beautiful piece less than 10 minutes after delivery! Ha! Well, I guess I have to give my hubby some credit--he DID get the bowl for me when the time came.

Anyway, we just had to laugh and go on.

 

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Originally Posted by augustacherri I had a similar experience. We went to the hospital a day and a half after birth to get birth certificate help and for me to get stitched for a tear. All the nurses and doctors *KNEW* us throughout the hospital because of our story and were totally amazed. They kept asking, "Who cut the cord????" We said that DH did and they would just marvel at that. My husband got to the point where he said he wanted to say, "We didn't cut it. I gnawed through it like an animal. We're REALLY into natural childbirth."

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I am sooooooo gonna use that!

 

After my first UC family members kept calling my husband "Dr.________" to which I would

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I'm not sure what they really think happened. No one wants to talk about it. Probably because they know I do. If I wanted to be left alone they'd probably be coming at me like wolves. *sigh*

 

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Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds I'm not sure what they really think happened. No one wants to talk about it. Probably because they know I do. If I wanted to be left alone they'd probably be coming at me like wolves. *sigh*

well, i have had more people ask me about this birth than the last one. but there is less to tell. water broke, contractions came really fast and baby was born 20 minutes before the mws arrived. end of story really. but i do throw in some details to amaze and astound people.... like "oh the contractions were really bone crunching!" (they were, but there were only about 10-12 of them) makes their eyes get really wide. "then i realized she was coming NOW." bigger eyes... "dh jumped into the tub with ds and 2 more contractions and the head was out!" hands over their mouths. "one more push and she was out." WOW!

it cracks me up to see people so amazed that a baby came out all by herself, what an astounding thing!

 

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Originally Posted by 2much2luv There was also that fact that he had to sign as the "attendant" on the birth certificate paperwork. :

of course i never even THOUGHT of how annoying THAT was! darnit, you've enlightened me more to my own position!

happy babymoon!

 

Blech. This drives me crazy, too. My dh's grandmother actually sent him a card after our first UC telling him what a wonderful midwife he is.

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Before my first UC, my partner really thought I planned to gnaw through the cord. He was pretty relieved when I bought scissors.

Then after the baby was born, about an hour later he looked puzzled and said "so now what, do you lick him off like a cat or something?"

He was sort of joking but serious too

 

 

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Originally Posted by augustacherri My husband got to the point where he said he wanted to say, "We didn't cut it. I gnawed through it like an animal. We're REALLY into natural childbirth."

 

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Originally Posted by skyastara Before my first UC, my partner really thought I planned to gnaw through the cord. He was pretty relieved when I bought scissors. Then after the baby was born, about an hour later he looked puzzled and said "so now what, do you lick him off like a cat or something?" He was sort of joking but serious too

meow

 

Uggg, after my first UC, everyone started calling my DH, "Doctor___" as well. I thought it was funny for a while, but then it started to annoy me, and my DH. He got tired of telling everyone that he really did not do anything, except set our son on my chest. I loved when they asked about the cord as well...I am going to have to try the "we gnawed it off" comment this time.

There is something just a little "off" when you have given birth (to a nearly 10lb baby), are sitting there nursing this child, up and doing stuff with no problems, and all anyone can do is slap your DH on the back and look at him with awe for his great accomplishment. However, I think it is just as nuts that people start gushing their gratitude to nurses and doctors for delivering them a healthy baby.

Jessica
UC#3 due soon! DS 04.04 UC; DS 06.05 UC

 

Yeah, I bet my DH is going to be getting lots of pats on the back after our UC. I kindof don't mind casue he has been a little reluctant and scared. I'm sure everything will be fine and I think DH will feel really proud of himself for making it through the UC. Of course here I am saying that now. After pushing out the baby and experiencing my first birth, i'm sure it will get really annoying when DH gets all the credit.

 

With our first child, dh caught but that was it. He received all of the comments, despite the fact that he kept saying, "I didn't do anything! My wife did it all!" He much preferred our second child's birth, where I caught. When people said anything, he would reply that he did absolutely nothing except play with our son and come in to be a spectator.

 

i mentioned to a friend about UC and she said the same thing "so your Dh is going to do everything?" and i said "well, he'd like to, but seeing as i'd be the one pregnant and in labor, it looks like i'll have to do everything."

 

oh my goodness, this thread has opened my eyes to what an annoying (yet hilarious!) situation this is going to be--my poor DP!!

: He's nervous enough as it is without ppl coming up to him and going "so you're gonna do everything??"!!

 

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Originally Posted by zoebird i mentioned to a friend about UC and she said the same thing "so your Dh is going to do everything?" and i said "well, he'd like to, but seeing as i'd be the one pregnant and in labor, it looks like i'll have to do everything."

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hey zoe, when are you due?

 

i'm not even pregnant yet. lol! uhm, so i guess the answer is "eventually."

but, i talk about UC all the time, with anyone who holds still for 10 or 15 minutes. seriously. LOL so, i end up having to say these things quite often.

 

My DH got the same kinds of comments, he corrected them by saying that he helped to catch the baby but I did all the work. He's said to me on many occassions that he kind of feels like he did absolutely nothing and I didn't even need him!
I needed him very much emotionally, but really not physically at all. Which really is the important part.

 

Ditto to that! My husband said that during our UC, he felt like he "really didn't DO anything." He said he wished there was more he could have done, but really...what IS there to do? It's a pretty self-contained process--when we don't let other unnecessary people poking around and trying to "help" the process. But my DH's silent support and strong presence was what I needed from him. Well, that and "can you get me _______?"

Wow, UC is so awesome! Thinking about it and how it was without a bunch of people around telling us HOW to birth....it was amazing!

 

the biggest, most important thing that my dh did during our uc was trust me. bringing me pillows, puke bowl, blankets, towels, and scissors was a distant second.

so he's gotten pretty used to correcting people and telling them that he didn't *do* much, especially since ds emerged when dh was out of the room on one of his go-fer trips. and he's pretty adamant about it. i think he might feel a little guilty about dozing a bit while i was laboring-- but honestly, what else could he have *done*?!

christina

 

This happened after ds was born, too, but with my mom. We called her to come over when I was getting discouraged. She arrived about an hour before ds was born. She wiped my forehead with a wet cloth a few times and took pictures. She also held ds while I was birthing the placenta.

Everyone was calling her "D. the Midwife" for months! She corrected them every time, but it's like they didn't hear. No one even looked at me.

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