Location and age matters!

We live in a rural location so my boys (hubby included) pee outside all the time. Shoot I will when we have a bonfire in the back of our yard with friends over and I don't feel like walking the whole way inside.

My son had sensory issues when younger and hated public restrooms because of the loud flushes and hand dryers. It was an ordeal for the first 5-6 years of his life when I had to take him in with me when I had to pee or his father. When it was two of us, we used to find a tree or open a car door for privacy and he would go outside.

Funny story though. My son was probably 3-4 ish at preschool and got ontop of the playground equipment and pulled down his pants and was peeing off it. Funny right. He was also asking for privacy very loudly while doing it on the top of the slide.

 

Location and age matters!

We live in a rural location so my boys (hubby included) pee outside all the time..................

I grew up in the city and there it was always thought of as being something only a homeless or vagrant man would do, but after moving to a suburban country area I saw it quite differently. Also being a mom then with 3 boys it was practical. As boys no one seems to care much, but as they've become older I've became more uneasy about it. I guess I really shouldn't be it seems that many moms today have no problem with it.

 

I'm the same way when I sneeze or laugh these days.

 

I had brother when he had to go he meant right now so we find a tree or anything and if we don't find anything he pee he bottle or cup. Better then wet seat I guess

 

Ours will pee of our back deck regularly. I kindly remind them it matters who is around (husband included). They are old enough that they shouldnt be peeing infront of others but I could care less if they pee outside.

Hiking and camping this momma and daughters will "pop a squat"

 

When I think about what part of it still makes me a bit uneasy I guess it would be that I don't want them or myself to be judged for being crude or offensive. We're not at all uptight about nudity, nor do I care about urine in my yard, people pee in much worse places all the time, like showers and pools. From the hygienic perspective, I'd much rather they pee in the yard than while swimming in the pool or even make a mess running into the house, but yet no one's going to notice or judge them for peeing in the pool. I guess the long and short of it is, I really don't see anything wrong with them doing so, yet I can't seem to become comfortable with it.

 

There's definitely an appropriate time/place to pee in places that aren't toilets.

Those long car rides between cities...sometimes you just gotta pull over. (If it's a boy and he has a bottle available, he could always try to put his penis into the bottle and then pee. He could always put a blanket over his waist area for privacy. Turn the music up to conceal the sound.)

One thing that definitely helps with car rides is taking kids into the bathroom with you. If they say they don't need to pee, be insistent that they try. After lunch/dinner, if they haven't already peed, say something like "ok, before we get in the car, we're all gonna go try to pee." Kids may not think they have to pee, but they'll go in there and see those stalls/urinals and then realize they have to. Keep on being politely insistent "I really think you should try" or "we're not gonna leave until you try."

If it's in the lake, I mean, fish do it. Just swim away and don't make a big deal. Obviously, I'd never allow it in a pool.

Back yard, no... although one time, at a friend's back yard, it was a large party and the friend had a septic tank, so they heavily encouraged boys/men to pee outside near a tree and away from everyone else.

 

In the house in the suburbs where the boys mostly grew up we all had rather large wooded lots and while we were in a subdivision of sorts it was out in the country where outdoor sports were common. Nearly everyone had some type of dirt bikes, atv's ect. and the boys spent much of the days outside. It was quite common though the summer and fall for neighbors to have bon fires or outdoor parties and yes as you said, it was just an unspoken policy that the guys would pee outdoors, behind a shed or along a fence, ect. I suppose it depends upon the context, who's doing so and where. At the bon fires it was thought to be the polite thing to do, not to have the guys track into the neighbors house. I suppose there's really no difference, but it still catches be off guard when I see the neighbor boys so casual about it.

 

So after a long winter we finally had a nice weekend and I invited over a group of friends and co-workers this afternoon. Our new place has a really nice patio/pool area, great for entertaining. However, I've been apprehensive about having guest due to the boys next door, not sure what guests might say. I invited the girls over after work, 2ish in the afternoon, knowing the neighbor boys would be in school, but we had a nice afternoon which carried into the evening. As I feared, not long after the neighbor boys got home and were running around their yard they peed rather openly in the yard. While this was a normal thing back when I was a kid growing up in Eastern Europe, when I moved to the U.S. twenty some years ago I quickly realized that it wasn't at all appropriate for boys to do so here. Now when we were out in the country it was different, but here in the suburbs I was certain my friends would be offended or uncomfortable seeing them. I'd tried on several occasions to voice my concern to the boys mom, but she didn't see the harm, I was rather hoping that I would be the only one to notice the boys, but that wasn't the case. Upon noticing them, the conversation quickly turned to them, but I was completely taken off guard when these middle age ladies, mostly moms, took a complementary view of them. Some simply excusing the boys behavior as normal, others commending them for not being intimidated by our presence, but several took to critiquing their own boys for not having the confidence to do so. I was quite surprised that I was the only one who was a bit uncomfortable about it.

 

There's a time and place for it. If it's in the middle of nowhere with nobody else around it's fine but in the crowded city or on someone's private property (ex. the side of someones house), probably not.

So context matters, but if it REALLY is an emergency, if you gotta go, you gotta go...

 

I never really had an issue with the boys peeing outside per say, if no one can see they did so, what's the issue. I suppose my question is more when everyone knows they're doing so, when they can be seen, when moms aren't embarrassed when their boys do so or accept it as normal. Is it acceptable for boys to pee outside when guests or neighbors are over, or to be at ease with them doing so?

 

I look over at my kids baseball game and 2 of the kids are peeing just outside of the dugout. Half the crowed had full view we don't think anything of it and just watch the game.

 

Funny you mentioned that, my husband is older than I (60's) and he and his family often spoke of the fact guys used to have to swim nude in school. I suppose that explains why men of that generation aren't as uptight about nudity as are many younger people. I never had that experience, so that would make me a bit uncomfortable I think. Strange how we think society is becoming more liberal, yet in some ways we're going backwards. In my day the boys wore Speedo type swimsuits, but now the boys are in board shorts and tee shirts.

 

Don't get me wrong, we've never been uptight about nudity around the house or pool, I just thought it a bit impolite that she allows the boys to pee openly all the time and doesn't see a problem with them doing so. I can see that I'm certainly in the minority though.

 

It's just a normal bodily action. My girls and I will pop a squat while hiking on camping and its not a big deal. Because we never made those things weird in our family its just what we do when we are outside in nature.

 

There is a way to stand up like guys. I mastered it. If you want to know, send me a note.

 

So long as there's cover and it isn't publicly visible? Let 'em rip. I don't sweat small stuff like this.

 

I couldn't help myself with this one my post is ABSOLUTELY necessary for this.. y'all's sons just pee? like i mean that's all they do? My 3 year old feral as hell boyest of boys...man he's just one of a kind. Guys my son straight up no F's given pulled his pants ALLLL the way down to his ankles SQUATTED in the stone area of my yard and SHAT yeah..yup..mhm i'm talkin like toddler scene of bridesmaid SQUATTING like what... I was SPEECHLESS ok so for everyone else here mama's be so proud when your son sneeks off and pees in a corner applaud him be so proud becuse at least you wont be trying to scoop it up later in your dogs pooper scooper...

 

Is there an age where it becomes less tolerable? I think nearly everyone excuses toddlers for doing so, but does that change as they become teenagers or adults?

 

Adults are generally expected to "hold it" better.

 

I guess I'm just being overly prudish, I know our boys did so when we lived out in the country, but there wasn't often anyone else around. It's not so much that they do so that bothers me, but rather as you say, they don't really care who see's them doing so. Their mom doesn't seem to see a problem with, nor do my friends or guests, so maybe I'm just intruding in something I shouldn't.

 

My son had sensory issues when younger and hated public restrooms because of the loud flushes and hand dryers. It was an ordeal for the first 5-6 years of his life when I had to take him in with me when I had to pee or his father. When it was two of us, we used to find a tree or open a car door for privacy and he would go outside.

 

As long as my son isn't doing it in front of a crowd, I don't see the problem.

 

Kids can be cruel for sure. The opposite side of the spectrum can make a boy feel self conscious about being different as well.

 

My ds1 (9) has micropenis so he’s very nervous in general in public bathrooms. Many hits are not very respectful of one another so we have made sure to teach him to only use stalls. On a past camping trip we managed to find a private area he could use.
As others have said, as long as he isn’t in front of a crowd, you should be fine.

How's his aim? I've heard it's harder to aim with micropenis.

I remember one of my son's friends had micropenis. I saw it when I was helping him in the bathroom when they were maybe 4-5. I distinctly remember there not being a shaft...just the tip.

 

Men's locker rooms and even many restrooms are not at all private and without the presence of moms boys can be very cruel to one another. Ironically it can be more private for boys in nature, roadside, ect. Also, for young boys it's an easy place to learn aim and contol without criticism and bild confidence. Myself i see more benefits to outdoors than drawbacks. It's quicker, easier and really no less private for boys.

I can certainly agree that there have been times when it was easier to let the boys pee outside and I'll confess that there have been times that I've asked the boys to do so, especially when they were little. I know that grown men do so as well at times, however I still feel as though boys should at least make an effort to at least step out of site, especially when they enter their teens and I assumed most moms would agree. I'm learning however that many of my friends don't seem to share my concern, as my best friend recently commented that her teenage son as well as her husband often pee off their deck and she isn't really concerned about the neighbors. Maybe it's just me being paranoid.